The Real Live Homemaker

The Homemaker

Today, we have a great guest post!  I’m honored to welcome Angie from American Homemaker. Some of this post made me laugh, some of it made me say, “YE-AH!” but all of it made me think–and for me, that’s a good thing. You may have a totally different opinion–and that the great part about our world–there is room and respect for everyone.

Thanks Angie…
“I originally posted this elsewhere, but I thought I’d share it here too… mostly because although I do think it’s a serious topic, it has inspired some awesome, funny comments and emails both from my “real life” friends and my online friends. This is the picture that started it all and the comment that it received here on this blog:

“Hi Angie. You seem to be a very talented charming lady. Your site is very nice. I think your dark eye makeup sends a little bit of a mixed message. I’m not saying that you aren’t pretty–you are so pretty! Nice blog! Cute post.”

At first I laughed, but then I was like, HEY! What exactly does that mean? Are people really so judgmental as to make judgments based on what kind of make-up someone wears? I have good ideas, easy recipes, I’m a nice religious gal… How much does the way you dress affect how people think about you, even in blogland? And what message is my make-up sending?

I think we all have stereotypes in our head of what someone is supposed to look like. I’m not trying to insult anyone here, so PLEASE don’t take offense. When I see someone that has longer hair, no makeup and wears dresses, skirts or simple clothes, I think “born-again” or “homeschooler.” Stay-at-home-moms usually are in “mom clothes” jeans, t-shirts, tennis shoes, etc. Now what do you think when you see someone that wears dark make-up, a lot of black clothing and high-heels everyday?

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE vintage and girly and pink, but you rarely see that in the way that I dress. I do wear a lot of vintage jewelry, but clothes-wise I wear what is flattering on me. I have big brown eyes, which look washed out without black eyeliner. I’m self-conscious about my tummy and hips, so I like to wear black a lot. I have a larger chest, which means quite often my tops are tight through the chest area. I rarely wear jeans. I’m always in heels; I own two pair of shoes with skulls on them (I call them my pirate shoes…lol) and I own two pair of camo shoes that I wear a lot, even with my dress pants and white shirt at work. I always dress modestly. I have a style that is very much my own.

Just because you are a mom and a wife and a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t look hot… LOL I know I am not a Barbie doll, but I do get up every day and put on makeup. I dress nicely almost all the time. I take care of my hair and baby my skin. I like to have my nails painted and yes they are painted black right now. I am not “high maintenance”. I spoil myself on a few things, like buying quality hair products and make-up, but over all I’m an extremely frugal person. All my clothes were extremely low clearances, so I don’t feel bad about having a lot of them. It doesn’t cost a lot to look nice. And it doesn’t take any longer to put on a pair of dress pants than it does to put on a pair of jeans.

What is wrong with not wanting to conform to what a “homemaker” is supposed to look like in these modern times. When I think homemakers today I often think frazzled and stressed out and yes, I am those things, but I don’t want to look it! I know women that are still in their pajamas when their husband gets home from work on a regular basis or that don’t feel like they have time for makeup or even showers because they have little kids. Take the time. You will feel much better about yourself as a women and your husband will appreciate it! You are more than just a mom and a homemaker. You are a smokin’ hot chick, so show it!

I look at the vintage homemakers of days gone by and I think how sad it is that we lost that way of life. I cook wearing my vintage aprons and high-heels and jewelry… LOL I fix my makeup before I see my husband. I dress up when we go out, even just to the movies. The sadder and more depressed I am, the nicer I dress. If you look nice on the outside it helps a lot on the inside.

I don’t think it’s vanity and I don’t think it’s narcissism. It’s taking care of yourself and feeling good about yourself and showing your husband that he is still worth getting dressed up for and showing yourself that you are more than just “mom”. I’d like to end with a quote by Brigham Young. I love this quote! I’ve mentioned it before, but here it is again.”

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jane-wyattJane Wyatt

I like to think that in another life–I was Jane Wyatt from Father Knows Best, or some farmer’s wife. I can’t exactly prove it at this point in my life–but I’ve always ached for a traditional homemaker’s world.

Given the right chance, with the right, decent fellow, I’d be good at it.

So there.

I felt the point of this post was that we are free to be and do and dress and feel however we want to–especially as homemakers. The convenient labels we use are so subjective that everyone should be able to interpret them in the way that works best–in their world–and not be judged badly for it. It doesn’t matter where our personal focus lies, it feels important to  respect each others opinions and be willing to clap as often as possible.

3 Replies to “The Real Live Homemaker”

  1. Well, I’m in two minds about this one.

    Firstly, I’m with her on the whole judgement thing. Unfortunately we DO have certain preconceptions, and she does it herself with the homeschoolers! But if someone is reading her blog and enjoying it, what do they care that she has black eyeliner on? Plain silly.

    Now, on the whole look after yourself thing. Housewives back then weren’t doing it out of self-respect, it was an era when a woman was supposed to be perfect, for herself, her man, her family, and her community. I’m gratefull we’re no longer there thankyouverymuch. It was a stifling time.

    If you feel good in high heels, great. But don’t say we should all be putting in that attention to our looks. Jeans feel good to me, and I prefer to take more time to work on my inner self. Self-respect is to me basic self-grooming – combing my hair, washing my face, putting clean clothes on. But make-up every day. Give me a break. lol

  2. I think that is what I loved about this article–how comfortable she is–doing the “homemaking” thing her own way. I’m in the middle too because I’m a jeans and sweatshirt girl, but I’ve worn make-up every day of my life since I was eleven. You may gag at that, but I think it’s because I’m from the middle era. My mom was June Cleaver and my daughters are true partners with their men–sharing the diaper duty and everything else. But me? Heck, I don’t even have a husband to think of or worry about–so I wear jeans for me and wear make-up so as not to frighten small children and woodland creatures. ha ha

  3. I found this article to be fantastic. To me the theme was to dress and treat yourself in such a way that you inspire beauty and confidence in yourself. Definitely don’t let your clothes define who you are or are not. But more importantly, don’t let your clothes hinder who you want to be.

    I think the last quote really sums up the article very well. It is my belief that when we pass from this life to the next, that we will maintain the same personality. So if we have denied ourselves being beautiful and doing beautiful things, how will we be able to bear being in the presence of angels who are beautiful and do beautiful things. Spiritually as well as physically, because our bodies are absolutely part of our eternal souls.

    Finally, do we remember that outfit that we used to wear. The one where we knew that we looked good, and we turned heads as we walked by. Remember the way we felt wearing that? Do we still feel that way about our clothes, or at least a few outfits? If not, then maybe we should change things up.

    Be your best self, which includes your most beautiful self.

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