Today, we have a great guest post! I’m honored to welcome Angie from American Homemaker. Some of this post made me laugh, some of it made me say, “YE-AH!” but all of it made me think–and for me, that’s a good thing. You may have a totally different opinion–and that the great part about our world–there is room and respect for everyone.
“Hi Angie. You seem to be a very talented charming lady. Your site is very nice. I think your dark eye makeup sends a little bit of a mixed message. I’m not saying that you aren’t pretty–you are so pretty! Nice blog! Cute post.”
At first I laughed, but then I was like, HEY! What exactly does that mean? Are people really so judgmental as to make judgments based on what kind of make-up someone wears? I have good ideas, easy recipes, I’m a nice religious gal… How much does the way you dress affect how people think about you, even in blogland? And what message is my make-up sending?
I think we all have stereotypes in our head of what someone is supposed to look like. I’m not trying to insult anyone here, so PLEASE don’t take offense. When I see someone that has longer hair, no makeup and wears dresses, skirts or simple clothes, I think “born-again” or “homeschooler.” Stay-at-home-moms usually are in “mom clothes” jeans, t-shirts, tennis shoes, etc. Now what do you think when you see someone that wears dark make-up, a lot of black clothing and high-heels everyday?
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE vintage and girly and pink, but you rarely see that in the way that I dress. I do wear a lot of vintage jewelry, but clothes-wise I wear what is flattering on me. I have big brown eyes, which look washed out without black eyeliner. I’m self-conscious about my tummy and hips, so I like to wear black a lot. I have a larger chest, which means quite often my tops are tight through the chest area. I rarely wear jeans. I’m always in heels; I own two pair of shoes with skulls on them (I call them my pirate shoes…lol) and I own two pair of camo shoes that I wear a lot, even with my dress pants and white shirt at work. I always dress modestly. I have a style that is very much my own.
Just because you are a mom and a wife and a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t look hot… LOL I know I am not a Barbie doll, but I do get up every day and put on makeup. I dress nicely almost all the time. I take care of my hair and baby my skin. I like to have my nails painted and yes they are painted black right now. I am not “high maintenance”. I spoil myself on a few things, like buying quality hair products and make-up, but over all I’m an extremely frugal person. All my clothes were extremely low clearances, so I don’t feel bad about having a lot of them. It doesn’t cost a lot to look nice. And it doesn’t take any longer to put on a pair of dress pants than it does to put on a pair of jeans.
What is wrong with not wanting to conform to what a “homemaker” is supposed to look like in these modern times. When I think homemakers today I often think frazzled and stressed out and yes, I am those things, but I don’t want to look it! I know women that are still in their pajamas when their husband gets home from work on a regular basis or that don’t feel like they have time for makeup or even showers because they have little kids. Take the time. You will feel much better about yourself as a women and your husband will appreciate it! You are more than just a mom and a homemaker. You are a smokin’ hot chick, so show it!
I look at the vintage homemakers of days gone by and I think how sad it is that we lost that way of life. I cook wearing my vintage aprons and high-heels and jewelry… LOL I fix my makeup before I see my husband. I dress up when we go out, even just to the movies. The sadder and more depressed I am, the nicer I dress. If you look nice on the outside it helps a lot on the inside.
I don’t think it’s vanity and I don’t think it’s narcissism. It’s taking care of yourself and feeling good about yourself and showing your husband that he is still worth getting dressed up for and showing yourself that you are more than just “mom”. I’d like to end with a quote by Brigham Young. I love this quote! I’ve mentioned it before, but here it is again.”
I like to think that in another life–I was Jane Wyatt from Father Knows Best, or some farmer’s wife. I can’t exactly prove it at this point in my life–but I’ve always ached for a traditional homemaker’s world.
Given the right chance, with the right, decent fellow, I’d be good at it.
So there.I felt the point of this post was that we are free to be and do and dress and feel however we want to–especially as homemakers. The convenient labels we use are so subjective that everyone should be able to interpret them in the way that works best–in their world–and not be judged badly for it. It doesn’t matter where our personal focus lies, it feels important to respect each others opinions and be willing to clap as often as possible.